Dear Jill,

Let me start by sharing that you cannot make someone feel badly about him or herself unless they already feel badly about themselves inside.  It sounds as if your boyfriend is communicating only partially about what is actually bothering him. The positive is that he did at least tell you something.

Dear Susanna,

I hear your pain. Let me reassure you that by questioning why the normal level of communication was not continuing, does not translate into you calling him a liar.  It sounds to me as if he took an out when he saw one.  It is vital to pay close attention to a man's actions as it reveals to you what is really going on. In addition, it is vital to pay attention to your own instincts when you are feeling that something is not quite right.  Trust yourself!  As far as wanting him back,

Dear "Me",

I understand your mixed feelings. You truly love your boyfriend, however, he is not moving forward with you in your relationship. The bottom line is that his actions are speaking loudly. His enmeshment with his wife and children is a clear indicator that he has not emotionally let go of his family. He clearly is not ready

Dear Debbie,

It is extremely hurtful to have your boyfriend get involved with someone so quickly after such a long-term relationship.  It sounds as if he is not clear on his feelings and is sending you very mixed messages.  This commonly happens when people jump right into another relationship without allowing time for reflection, grieving, and healing to occur.