Dear Ira,
Many women go through what you are experiencing right now when they choose to leave their career to stay home with their children. It is an immense change, which often impacts a woman's self-esteem and relationship.  Society has not yet evolved to treating women with the same respect as when they choose to work outside of the home- thus making it quite difficult for many women. As well, you mentioned after having three children how badly you are feeling about your body. Again,

not to minimize your experience in any way, this is also very common. The good news is you are not alone and do not have to continue feeling or living this way! Whenever we look outside of ourselves for approval or our self-worth, we are looking in the wrong place and will only find band-aides or further hurt.  You are at the perfect time in your life to discover and build a healthy and loving relationship with yourself. As you do this, you will see your life experiences positively shift.  Your self-worth, thoughts, feelings, and the relationship you have with your body, husband, and children will all positively be impacted.  I promise it is possible as long as you are willing to commit to you. When you commit to you, you are honoring yourself and your life. You have the power within to do this. You have everything you need to move through this process and come out on the other side feeling and knowing that you are whole and complete within yourself.